Roses And Thorns

I never really admired the rain when I was a child. I think it's because I always had the mentality that rainy days meant staying indoors...which no child in the 90's wanted to do. The sky would go grey and the possibility of a power outage would linger in the air. We'd get out the board games and books to pass the time as the rain started to pour down. The worst was when kids would go to school looking forward to recess only to be told that it was cancelled due to the weather. It was always such a downer for me growing up.

It wasn't until I hit my late teens that I started to truly cherish the rain. Nowadays I love everything about it. The smell of the air just as it starts to pitter-patter and the sound of rolling thunder in the distance. The joy of stepping outside barefoot in the pouring rain as you walk around in the puddles...rain boots were never my style. And as your hair starts dripping to the point when you look like you're happy crying, you just start dancing like no one's watching!

I spent most of today running errands, getting my blood work done for my biopsy, and paying bills. The moment I got home and stepped out of the car I looked up and the clouds were sweeping in. The smell of the oncoming storm was overwhelming. My doctor would probably kill me for what I did next and my neighbors probably thought I was crazy...but I took the opportunity that nature gave and decided to have some fun. I splashed through the puddles and ran up and down the driveway. I spun in circles while laughing ridiculously. I kinda felt like Liesl from The Sound Of Music dancing in the rain.

Maybe it's because I'm a spontaneous extrovert. Maybe it's because I look for adventure when my life gives me troubles. Or maybe I just like to rebel at what life gives me and to make it my own. Lately my perspective has definitely grown in the fact that I try to notice the little victories and blessings every moment of every day. Don't get me wrong...there are definitely moments where I feel low, alone, and I go through a box of tissues in the span of a day. There are days when I feel trapped like the younger me on a dismal rainy day. But every rainy day has it's perks and there's always something to make you smile and be thankful for.

I suggest we all take a moment to look at our lives and appreciate what we have. A good friend of mine came up with a game called Roses And Thorns. The roses represent the good experiences and the thorns are the bad. For every thorn you say that happened to you today, you have to come up with two roses. By doing this kind of reflection every day, we can look back and see that the day wasn't wasted. You might be surprised to find how few thorns there are compared to roses. Because seriously...who wants a bouquet of thorns?
                           
So the next time it rains and you are stuck inside...or the next time you feel like there was no point to the day...or you feel low in general...change it! Make today your day! Find something to do that will bring you joy despite the gloom. Embrace the rain clouds you've been given and make the best of it. And at the end of the day, count your roses among the thorns. I guarantee you'll look back and smile.

"And rain...will make the flowers grow!" -Eponine from Les Miserables

Quite The Setback

I don't really know how to start this post besides saying I didn't see this coming. I mean I had my worries that my cancer would come back farther down the line, but I don't think anything could have prepared me for the news I received after this PET scan I had at the beginning of the week. This scan was supposed to be the green light towards my bone marrow transplant. It was supposed to show me either in remission or on the way to remission. Sadly that wasn't the case for me. Despite the immunotherapy, which is supposed to be highly effective for cases like me, it isn't working to the highest degree. It's successfully killing off the cancer cells that showed up at the beginning of the year, but at the same time new progressions of cancer are forming during my treatment. I'm in that 1% of unsolved cases again. It's beginning to appear obvious that my body is seriously trying to kill me.

My oncologist has no explanation for why this is happening and I have to go in for my THIRD neck lymph node biopsy in a couple weeks. This biopsy is to see if my cancer has mutated into some kind of hybrid which can happen in rare cases of my immunotherapy treatment. In the meantime I continue to do the same treatment since it's not killing me and partially working. After the biopsy my doctor will determine what treatment to proceed with...whether it's a different drug, a mix of my previous chemo and immunotherapy, a five day infusion of a harsher chemo, or a clinical trial and hope for the best. At the moment my bone marrow transplant is now postponed until who knows when since you can't get a transplant until you are in remission. I had just started getting my head around the transplant process and had the mentality of "well this time next year it will all be over with"....now I'm back at square one.

I spent the first day after receiving this news just bawling my eyes out. Now I'm going through a stage of anger and disappointment with my body. I've already wasted almost two years to this curse of an illness...while everyone around me is going on with their lives (finishing school, working, getting married, having families) I'm stuck in some sort of limbo. All the while everyone is giving me the broken record of "stay positive" and "you'll get better" but after hearing this twice and getting disappointed both times, I find it really hard to let that sink in again. I hate feeling defeated and being forced to pick myself up again. So I'm not going to look at this like I'm definitely going to be cured. Don't get me wrong, I want to be in remission, but I can no longer look to the future like I had been. This is now a war that needs to be taken one day at a time until I win...and I will win.

So now I'm making weekly plan sheets where I plan out each day with what I can do in terms of my energy. Most of the days I will spend studying, reading, watching documentaries, compose music, and learning everything I can. If I can't go back to school any time soon then I'll study at home. And even though my social life is diminishing slowly, I'll do what I can to stay upbeat. I will try to get more involved with my support group and other activities they can offer while I'm still feeling ok. I even found a children's hospice not far from town that I am looking to volunteer at and hand out my Happy Bags. I might even bring my ukulele and plunk out some tunes. Haha! My oncologist told me that not just being positive helps defeat cancer but having a sense of humor is key. If I can keep my attitude up and make others smile, laugh, or have a good time then that can help them AND me. I need to maintain this and as long as I do, cancer can't get the best of me. And as I've said before, my motto in life is a quote by Charlie Chaplin...."A day without laughter is a day wasted." Let's not waste any day we have. If you spread joy then you reap joy. Just something I think we can all work on during such struggling times.

Running Out Of Time

While I have a moment to step away from the whirlwind of events I've crammed into these next few days, I've decided to breathe and write a quick little thing about the past week. On Friday, the first of July, I hit my absolute rock bottom. It started off as a pleasant day...I was making plans for the 4th of July (spending the day at Mt. Vernon) and for the rest of the week. I knew I'd be feeling close to normal (health-wise) and I wanted to go out and do things with friends while I still could. I woke up that day thinking 'June was a mess of emotions and since it's the first of the month I'm going to make the best of what I have!'...I felt ready to take on this month's challenges...or so I thought.

I then proceeded to take a shower and it took only about a minute for me to realize the horrible mess accumulating at the drain stopper. I was losing my hair in clumps. At first I was confused. I didn't see this coming until I started my transplant, to which I was planning on buzzing it when the time came closer. So there I am standing in the shower, stunned at the muppet forming at my feet. All I could do was start to sob...uncontrollably. No one could have prepared me for this, especially since I was told that there was a 20% chance of "hair thinning" with the immunotherapy...no one said hair LOSS.

I spent the entire day in tears and utterly traumatized. A lot of what happened that day is a blur to be honest. I called up a very close friend and former co-worker from the salon I used to work at, and thankfully she was able to see me first thing the next day to give me a quick pixie cut. I cannot thank her enough for seeing me especially since if she hadn't, I would have ended up shearing off my own hair with a pair of scissors my mom owns...and that wouldn't have gone over too well. But my friend gave me my confidence back and even though I'm not crazy about my hair being so short, I've gotten several compliments, which is nice. Now I just gotta work the Anne Hathaway cut until I buzz it off completely for the transplant.

So there I was starting the new week off at the lowest I've felt in such a long time. To top it off, my 4th of July plans were immediately scratched because of the rainy weather and fireworks were cancelled. Instead my mom, who works at a really nice Hilton hotel, made plans with her boss to give me a getaway from the house. She got a room for me to stay in...but not just any room...A SUITE! I've never stayed in one so I felt quite pampered. It included a really nice shower, a giant TV (to which I got to watch My Big Fat Greek Wedding 2 and a marathon of Game of Thrones), free snacks and ginger ale in the pantry at the lobby, and a free breakfast. It was pretty awesome and I totally felt like Kevin in Home Alone 2.

Then plans started picking up again and the day after the holiday my friends (Alex and Matt) and I decided to take a holiday of our own and spend the entire day at Ocean City! The moment we started pulling up to the inlet I came up with the spontaneous idea of parasailing, and with little convincing, we decided to give it a go. I've always wanted to do it and figured now was the best time...and it was AMAZING!!!! We were up 600 ft with a beautiful view of everything! We were soaring for quite a while and got pictures to remember the event.

(I'm the one on the right)

Afterwards we went swimming in the ocean, despite it being FREEZING. By the time we decided to hit the boardwalk I was covered in sand due to the intense waves. Haha! Then we got some munchies and hit the arcade. I wasn't expecting to do very much there as my energy was starting to diminish...but then I saw it. The game with my name written on it. PIANO KEYS. You sit down and it's essentially DDR but with a piano keyboard consisting of 4 keys. And (not to brag but) I swept the leaderboard 1st through 6th. Not only that but I got 953 tickets out of it! I was completely overwhelmed with joy and giddiness. I felt so proud turning in my tickets for a little seashell trinket box and one lemonhead.

The day came to a close and we headed home after that. It was so much fun that we're already planning our next trip for when I'm fully recovered and cancer-free. Then Thursday I met up with my dear friend Natasha for a lovely little outing at the Rio (a little shopping outlet and park). We were wandering in and out of shops when Natasha mentioned that the movie 'The Secret Life of Pets' came out the next day...and then DING! The spontaneous light bulb went off again. I suggested we hang out the following day and see the movie...to which we did and I'm so glad! Not only a great movie but I was really happy to have another day to spend with her. You are still the Hoops to my Yoyo! lol!!

So here I am after the movie and looking back on the last 7 days and all I can say is WOW. I crammed so much in one week and even marked something off my bucket list. Next week is going to be appointment after appointment at the doctors...and I'll probably be getting news about my transplant process. I feel like I'm running out of time...time to hang out with people....time for those long walks....time for freedom. All of that will be gone when I'm contained in my hospital room facing only God knows what kind of pains and struggles. So until the day comes where I have to start packing my stuff up and leave for Baltimore, I'll try to stay active and keep writing in my blog as often as I can. I'll do as much as I can with the time I have (in moderation with my health of course) and stay upbeat. It's all I can do.

"How do you write like tomorrow won't arrive? How do you write like you need it to survive? How do you write every second you're alive?" -Hamilton the Musical